Friday, October 7, 2011

Hard Times

A personality in our family has changed...overnight.

One of my kids learned that a parent of one a friend spoke poorly about him to his friend, and now he's struggling.  In one night, he's living down to the expectations of that adult.  So sad.

What can I do to fix this?  Such a great kid.  Such a sad thing.

4 comments:

Diane said...

So sad when our kids have to be exposed to the 'adult' world. All we can do is be there for them. Talk to them. And feel their pain.

meganconser said...

My dad was ever my cheerleader. My Mom was my #1 supporter. When I was in my teens somthing like this happened to me, and my Dad just kept telling me how much he loved me, how great I was, what amazing things I do... My mom was disgusted and was very open about how this adult did somthing very wrong. It still hurt, but I had two very important people in my corner, and that made all the difference.

Tonya said...

Oh, that's so sad, Julie!

I hate stuff like this.

Just be his best cheerleader and let him know that he's amazing and that sometimes adults don't make the right choices.

So hard. But I do know that you'll make it all right. You always seem to know just what to do.

vaxhacker said...

We've had our share of those moments, too, and they can really be heart-breaking. Of course, C and I have gone through being misunderstood, disliked, or at least just on the "not on my 'A' list of people I want to know" list in various people's eyes, so we could sympathize.

We just reassured them that they had a lot to offer, were good, worthwhile human beings, and that other friends clearly still like them and want to do things with them, and that some people are just not going to "get" them, and try not to take it personally.

It's never as easy as just saying that, of course, but we get through it together in the end. Lots of cheerleading and empathy.

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