Tonya and I are going to be working on an activity for our Mia Maids about dating decisions. We're in need of some fairly realistic dating situations that we can give the girls, so they can respond with some kind of decision if faced with that situation. Do you have any dating experiences from back in the day that you'd be willing to share? They can be good or bad or both. We were thinking we'd make them into cards and have some random guy's face on one side and a situation on the other side, so they'll pick the guy's face and then find what happens.
Monday, September 15, 2008
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I don't really have any situations I can think of off hand but the one thing that has always stuck in my mind is that our YW leader when we were laurels always told us repeatedly that if we were ever in a situation that we needed to get out of that we could call her whatever time of day or night and she would come pick us up. She told us that often so that there was no doubt in any of our minds that we were very loved and cared for and that we really could depend on her in an emergency dating situation if we needed to.
I think really the worst situations I got myself into while dating were when I realized that my idea for where to go or what to do ended up being kind of lame, no matter how they sounded beforehand, which were a bit embarrassing but managed to alter plans mid-date and do something more fun anyway.
There are, of course, the obvious cases where a young person and their date are put into compromising situations, dangerous locations/activities, or asked/pressured to engage in activities they shouldn't. I hesitate to attach genders to those roles because the pressure or poor judgment can come from either party, really.
Maybe less obvious would be situations where perhaps their lives, safety or sacred honor aren't on the line, but their relationships may be. How would she handle social awkwardness in a date? Not having as much fun on a date as she wanted to? Can she handle situations like these with grace and care for her date's feelings or end up hurting feelings?
Maybe something about group vs. single dating situations?
Maybe I can think of more later, but I thought that might be an interesting line of thinking that's a bit different from the usual sorts of "dating decisions" talks youth get at church.
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